Tuesday, 27 October 2015

Urban Meditation

Do you honk often while riding your bike or driving your car??????

Do you get angry if someone cuts the driving lane or suddenly swirls right in front of you??????

Are you on your nerves end while traveling by a vehicle even if you are not the one driving / riding the vehicle????????

If you are living in India then most likely you would answer yes to one of the above. If you do not reside in India the chances are less due to better traffic discipline, however you will notice the rise of anger / rage or feeling disturbed when something is not supposed to be the way it should be, say being stuck in traffic etc. 

Situations outside our control or outside our self are just triggers to what is within us. if you have anger . frustration, disappointment and so on within you then an external trigger will create a venue for you to vent it out. If you are at peace within then the trigger wont bother you and you will continue living within your bliss. 

Let me explain it with another common scenario - when a mosquito is sucking the blood out of our bodies we feel discomfort, however the force or power or speed we try to swat it with is directly proportionate to the pent up anger within. Yes some will call it reflex or response to stimuli, however we can respond to the stimuli in a calmer manner too by just flicking it off or shooing it off our body. 

Getting back to our topic - today we will look at how we can use the situations around us in our urban setting to work on ourselves everyday. 

There are numerous things that we face daily from our urban lifestyle, may it be while driving / riding on the road or a person that jumps the queue at the post office/ supermarket or a ticket counter, or that one person we all have either at work or among our friends or relatives who is always nagging us or being negative and so on. We would all love to have everyone follow the right etiquette or laws, however till that happens we just need to deal with it without letting it affect us at a deeper spiritual level.

Say someone swirls from another lane right in front of us, well first things first if we are not busy talking or texting on our cell phones it would be easier to spot the person swirling in before he does and respond accordingly. Now that we have taken the appropriate action to prevent a collision lets breathe and think . Getting enraged and hurling abuses or rude statements or trying to resolve it by halting that vehicle and getting in to a brawl is not going to go down well. First of all it will ruin your day and may be of the other person too. It will also add to the pent up frustration within you and keep harming you subconsciously.

Now lets try making  the above situation an opportunity to work on ourselves and respond to the situation spiritually. Once you have taken the action to prevent a collision just breathe and say a small thank you that you and the other person or persons in the other vehicle are safe. Do not honk like your life depends on it. Drive normally and calmly. If you get an opportunity to come up beside that vehicle ( do not go about trying to overtake or change lanes just to prove your point) at a traffic light or so, do give a polite smile and wish them a good day. You do not need to literally talk to them, you could even do this from being behind them, though it helps when you can see the driver in person. When you smile and wish them a good day, you take away the power of that situation to affect you , by wishing the other person a good day you send a message to your own subconscious to have a good day too. Such a small change in our reaction to the same situation can have a dramatic effect on our well being. 

Honking a lot won't change things around you but will surely affect the peace within you. Stop honking at the drop of a pin, smile more, thank more and spread more good wishes.

This approach can be applied to all situations that we get easily upset, disappointed or angry with. No matter how someone acts or behaves we have control over the situation depending on our response. Respond with anger and we have handed over the controls or the power to the person or situation to affect us. Respond calmly and wish good then we are in control of the situation and it does not affect us.

Let us all work with ourselves through all that we experience in our lives. If we all work with ourselves the world will automatically become less chaotic and calmer. Initially it will be very testing not to honk or retort angrily to a person who enters the queue from the middle  or any situation that threatens our peace but constantly working on it will make it our nature over time and also improve the quality of our lives.

Our world is nothing but a reflection of what is within us,

                        Change inside to see the change in the world!!!!!!  

                  Breathe !!!


Wednesday, 21 October 2015

Raise your understanding not your voice....

Hope all of you have been practicing the meditation mentioned in the previous article. I have received some messages and emails from some of you, it was nice discussing and working with you all with regards to the meditation mentioned and other aspects of spirituality and healing too. 

Today we will be discussing a subject which is one of the main causes for the build up of our frustrations within and also the reason for the issues we face in our relationships with people. 

We all have expectations. Usually expectations is made to look like the cause of all evil. However though expectations is the cause of many of the issues in the world, by itself expectations can not cause any harm. It is when expectation is combined with ego, lack or resisting to understand any situation from all perceptions and some other factors that even the most joyful of situations or relations turn in to war zones.

When I mention the word "relationships" I do not restrict it to our friends and loved ones. Every time we interact with another living being we are in a relationship with them for that moment. May it be even a simple gesture like giving directions to a passer by on the road. Even in those few seconds we can affect the frame of mind of the person we are interacting with. 

It is common nowadays to see people get angry and arguing at a drop of a pin. There is a deeper issue that leads to such behaviour. It is not that specific situation that leads to this outburst of anger, rage and lots more. It is the constant collection of all the frustrations, negative conditioning and fear that leads to such frequent outbursts. A situation is basically just the trigger to what lies within and waiting to erupt.

When we  interact with others it is natural for expectations to arise. It is simple lets face it - we don't go to a supermarket, cart out all the goods we wish to purchase , stand in a line, bill and pay for them and not expect to take it home. So rising of expectations is natural. However it arises with all the participants of the interaction and not only ourselves. The expectations may vary and is a very complex subject to get in to. To briefly sum it up - our expectations are affected or influenced by our mindset, our inclination of being positive or negative, our belief system, our fears and the environment in which we are brought up. So expectations of the same situation can be drastically different for two different individuals. A contented mind along with understanding the cause of expectations can drastically reduce or eliminate our expectations. However lets work on dealing with the existence of expectations till we are able to eliminate them.

Lets take a situation where we are interacting with another living being, both of us will have certain expectations. Each one of us wants our expectations met  but we may or may not think about the expectations the other person has from the interaction. This small factor can cause a rift and once this rift is created then other factors like ego step in and aggravate the smallest of misunderstandings till a conversation or an interaction which could have been peaceful could end up being your last interaction with that living being.

We need to resolve this at the root. It is not possible for us to read the mind or know what the other person is thinking about unless we all become psychics. Whenever we interact with others we need to be calm  and work towards a solution rather than proving a point or getting what we expect. I am sure some of you will say - "it is easier said than done especially on days that have been pretty testing or with people whose body language and attitude just ticks us off". we need two hands to clap so only if we respond with anger will a situation be created. If we get angry we must remember that we need to work with ourselves to release all the pent up anger/ frustrations / disappointments and so on.  

We need to realize that our getting angry or screaming or being rude will not change the situation or the actions of the other person, however we need to reciprocate in a proactive manner working towards a solution that is fair and just to all parties. 

If you have been doing the meditation from the previous article then you are already on the path to understanding yourself and releasing the baggage's of the past. If you have not then it is never to late to start with it. 

Once you are able to sit peacefully in the meditation explained in the previous article, I suggest you could try something along with that to help you further. - Once you have sat in front of the mirror and completed the meditation  just close your eyes, breathe deeply ( dont lift your shoulders but fill your stomach with air every time you breathe in) and repeat this affirmation 10 times - I have wonderful, joyful, fruitful and long lasting relations with everyone. I have no fears and am calm.  Once done slowly open your eyes and go have a blissful day ahead.




Tuesday, 13 October 2015

The Emptiness within......

Life is a gift.

          A gift of magnanimous proportions.

                                                 A gift that we often take for granted.

Life is a gift. A gift of eternal bliss, a gift of universal transcendence. Most of the time we are confused with what life is about. This confusion leads us to make our own set of beliefs or follow different groups (religions, clans, social forums etc). There is nothing wrong in following any group or religion, the problem lies when we follow something just because we are born in to it or because that is what everyone is doing or because we do not wish to get in to a conflict with people so we just follow everyone. Do anything because you understand it, believe in the process / thoughts etc, because it is what resonates with your every breath and your soul. Often our beliefs cause us to question the true purpose of life. Sometimes this happens in our conscious state but often it is the silent war that is constantly fought at our subconscious level. We sit to introspect trying to resolve our anguish and confusion but often this further confuses us. This cycle keeps repeating again and again and again till we achieve Satori ( instant enlightenment ). We need to resolve this constant cycle of confusion. Which is the cause for the highs and lows of our life. As well as the cause for our pain, sorrow, disappointment, depression and lots more. 

Today everyone is so caught up in the rat race of life. Everyone seems to be living to put up a show or an act for the world around us. Most of us are constantly wanting things, usually it is to live up to our so called external image in front of the world. Most of our wants are not our needs and some of our needs get neglected because we are so busy fulfilling all our external wants. Over time this constant state of wanting pulls us away from our true self to a point where we really don't know what we need. We are still so engrossed in this external show or act or drama that we decide to hide this alarming signal and continue with our fake or made up outer self. I do not say money is bad or not needed. Lets face it we all need it, to eat, live and thrive. However when we make money our so called God then there is an issue with us. Many will say - No am not materialistic. Well we say that because we are comparing ourselves with either people in our same income level or people who are more materialistically blessed. Close your eyes , breathe, relax then imagine not having anything that you have. Now make a list of 10 things that you would need to get through just one day when you have nothing. The list will be very simple - clothes (not branded), food (not a lavish meal), shelter (not a palace) and so on. It will not include 95% of our so called wants. It is simple - wants are external and insatiable however needs are internal and have a barrier where we achieve the state of contentment.
This is the classic example of a mind that has wandered astray from the soul. The further it has wandered or the bigger the distance between the mind and the soul the more issues and confusions arise. This distance varies in all of us. This variation of distance is what makes all our lives so different with so many different situations and lots more. The only way to reduce , rectify or change this cycle of life ( repetitive cycles of confusion ) is to connect with the soul. When I say connect to the soul, I do not imply to reduce the discord between the mind and the soul. I literally mean that we need to live through our soul. Once you can find your soul then your life will transform faster than the snap of your fingers. Yes, I know that some reading about this transformation will think - Oh great so I will get this or I will get a promotion or all my worries will vanish. Nothing of that sort will happen. However your perception towards life will change so what was a worry before may not even bother you now, what was a desire or a goal before may seem so irrelevant now.

This is called true transcendence, a shift in your paradigm.

Just sit by yourself, no music, no people around, just sit and look at yourself in the mirror ( you don't need to go to quiet place, just don't make any noise by yourself, let the world continue the way it does). If your mind gets any thoughts just stop yourself from thinking or internally discussing / debating those thoughts. Stare at the mirror till you no longer see your external self, till you stop noticing or counting the wrinkles, pimples, white hair, tan of the skin and so on. Stare at the mirror calmly, breathe deep, without straining your eyes or your mind. Just do this for 5 minutes daily. After a few days (4-5) , increase the time to 10 minutes. You will observe that the thoughts reduce, in less than a minute you no longer see your external self but start looking within yourself. You start understanding your actions, your soul or your true inner self or your conscience starts taking control and points out all the things that you have done, do or  keep doing which it does not agree with. Once you feel comfortable and relaxed with this full process, then stop keeping a fixed number of minutes to sit, just sit and do it till you feel it is enough from within. It will result in clearing a lot of your baggage's from the past. Gradually start making these changes in your attitude and behaviour. This simple exercise if done properly will surely lead you to a connection with your true inner self. 

Gradually the emptiness within will disappear. Your life will seem more joyful and vibrant with positivity. 

If you have any further questions or would like any assistance with this simple method of connecting within, please feel free to contact me and I will most willingly help you out.




Sunday, 11 October 2015

Religion - Our creation to meet our constant urge to label everything.

Before we get in to the article I would like to mention that I am a person more inclined to spirituality rather than any religion. However I do respect all religions and am tolerant to what ever people believe in as long as they don’t try to smear their believes all over my face. I have read a lot of religious texts and other scriptures of many religions that flourish on our planet. Sadly many religions today spread racism because their preachers / priests etc keep telling those who follow that particular religion that - Our God / Prophet / Messiah is the only true one. Which would imply that all the other religions are fake. How can you claim to be spiritual when you have a big inflated EGO that fantasizes to be following the only true God and others are all inferior because they are following some other persons thoughts / teachings. I write this not to hurt anyone’s sentiments or believes but to express my thoughts. If you do not agree with it DON’T READ IT. It is perfectly okay to not agree with something. I believe in Karma, doing good, helping others and not harming any life form, which is the true essence of any religion in this galaxy and beyond. Yes aliens also have their own religions :-) :-)
Everyone has the right to have their own believes and we are nobody to mock them. However the problem usually arises when we try to enforce our believes on others. I strongly believe that what was taught by these founders of the religions was much different than what is being preached or written in the religious texts that are available today. It is simple, any king or religious leader/ priest etc would find it much easier to make all the people do something if they said this is the word of God / Prophet / Messiah etc rather than saying do this because I tell you so. So sadly most of the religious texts today are filled with matter that has been altered by these Kings / priests / preachers etc.
So what is religion? Did any of the Prophets/ Messiahs / Gods / and so on ever coin the word “RELIGION” ? Well the answer is a big NO. None of these spiritually enlightened beings ever wished to have their teachings fixed in a box and given a name. They all said only one thing - “These are my thoughts on how to live life if you wish to follow them you are most welcome.” After that their predecessors cleverly changed the word “thoughts” to “teachings”. In fact Buddha use to always tell his disciples “If you meet a Buddha on the road kill him”. “Buddha” literally means the enlightened one. By the above sentence Buddha use to explain to disciples that - do not worship anyone, if you like his / her thoughts follow the thoughts. Don’t put them up on a pedestal or think he / she will transform your life for you. Your life is yours and any transformation that you desire can be achieved by you yourself using your mind and soul in unison. 
We as human beings have developed this unnecessary habit to label everything so we have - he / she is a GOOD person , he /she is a BAD person, he /she is this , he / she is that and so on. Who gave us the right or authority to go around labeling everyone or everything? What may seem good to you may actually be bad to another and so on . As long as we are not harming anyone or society and are doing what we believe to be the path for us then I do not think anyone has the right to comment , ridicule, gossip, mock or condemn anyone for their beliefs or life style.
This insatiable urge to label everything that we have or see or believe in is what made us label the thoughts of spiritually inclined people as “Religions”. Just imagine if we stop labeling everything then there would be no religions only human beings following certain thoughts which they feel is the right path for them. Can you imagine how peaceful this earth would be? Do you know that we have lost so many human beings in wars, agitations, riots or rebellious movements based on religion and religious beliefs ? 
Was it a wise move to create this label “Religion” is a topic that is futile to debate on because it has already been done. We can not change the past but we can amend our present so that the future generations live in a label free world. 
A world where a human being is looked at for what he or she is and not based on their spiritual beliefs, passport, colour, race, gender and so on. 
Some of you may think it is a nice thought but too far fetched to become a reality. Well this is exactly where the problem lies. We want others to change things then we will join the movement. To bring change we need to work collectively. If you really wish to see such a change then from now start by you, yourself being the change. Don’t go about preaching these thoughts just live by it. When people around you see the change if they like it they will on their own accord either ask you about it or themselves start being the change like you. 
Every drop fills the ocean and every human transformed will slowly make this planet that we call our home a more peaceful and loving place to be in.