Tuesday, 27 October 2015

Urban Meditation

Do you honk often while riding your bike or driving your car??????

Do you get angry if someone cuts the driving lane or suddenly swirls right in front of you??????

Are you on your nerves end while traveling by a vehicle even if you are not the one driving / riding the vehicle????????

If you are living in India then most likely you would answer yes to one of the above. If you do not reside in India the chances are less due to better traffic discipline, however you will notice the rise of anger / rage or feeling disturbed when something is not supposed to be the way it should be, say being stuck in traffic etc. 

Situations outside our control or outside our self are just triggers to what is within us. if you have anger . frustration, disappointment and so on within you then an external trigger will create a venue for you to vent it out. If you are at peace within then the trigger wont bother you and you will continue living within your bliss. 

Let me explain it with another common scenario - when a mosquito is sucking the blood out of our bodies we feel discomfort, however the force or power or speed we try to swat it with is directly proportionate to the pent up anger within. Yes some will call it reflex or response to stimuli, however we can respond to the stimuli in a calmer manner too by just flicking it off or shooing it off our body. 

Getting back to our topic - today we will look at how we can use the situations around us in our urban setting to work on ourselves everyday. 

There are numerous things that we face daily from our urban lifestyle, may it be while driving / riding on the road or a person that jumps the queue at the post office/ supermarket or a ticket counter, or that one person we all have either at work or among our friends or relatives who is always nagging us or being negative and so on. We would all love to have everyone follow the right etiquette or laws, however till that happens we just need to deal with it without letting it affect us at a deeper spiritual level.

Say someone swirls from another lane right in front of us, well first things first if we are not busy talking or texting on our cell phones it would be easier to spot the person swirling in before he does and respond accordingly. Now that we have taken the appropriate action to prevent a collision lets breathe and think . Getting enraged and hurling abuses or rude statements or trying to resolve it by halting that vehicle and getting in to a brawl is not going to go down well. First of all it will ruin your day and may be of the other person too. It will also add to the pent up frustration within you and keep harming you subconsciously.

Now lets try making  the above situation an opportunity to work on ourselves and respond to the situation spiritually. Once you have taken the action to prevent a collision just breathe and say a small thank you that you and the other person or persons in the other vehicle are safe. Do not honk like your life depends on it. Drive normally and calmly. If you get an opportunity to come up beside that vehicle ( do not go about trying to overtake or change lanes just to prove your point) at a traffic light or so, do give a polite smile and wish them a good day. You do not need to literally talk to them, you could even do this from being behind them, though it helps when you can see the driver in person. When you smile and wish them a good day, you take away the power of that situation to affect you , by wishing the other person a good day you send a message to your own subconscious to have a good day too. Such a small change in our reaction to the same situation can have a dramatic effect on our well being. 

Honking a lot won't change things around you but will surely affect the peace within you. Stop honking at the drop of a pin, smile more, thank more and spread more good wishes.

This approach can be applied to all situations that we get easily upset, disappointed or angry with. No matter how someone acts or behaves we have control over the situation depending on our response. Respond with anger and we have handed over the controls or the power to the person or situation to affect us. Respond calmly and wish good then we are in control of the situation and it does not affect us.

Let us all work with ourselves through all that we experience in our lives. If we all work with ourselves the world will automatically become less chaotic and calmer. Initially it will be very testing not to honk or retort angrily to a person who enters the queue from the middle  or any situation that threatens our peace but constantly working on it will make it our nature over time and also improve the quality of our lives.

Our world is nothing but a reflection of what is within us,

                        Change inside to see the change in the world!!!!!!  

                  Breathe !!!



  1. Replies
    1. Namaste!!! Thank you, may the divine bliss become a part of your every breath.

  2. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe:

    "I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element.

    It is my personal approach that creates the climate.

    It is my daily mood that makes the weather.

    I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or joyous.

    I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration, I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal.

    In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis is escalated or de-escalated, and a person is humanized or dehumanized.

    If we treat people as they are, we make them worse.

    If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming."

    1. Namaste!!! very kind of you to share this. Our response decides not only how we affect our inner self but also how we bring change in the other person. Raising our voice is never a solution but often the cause to make the situation more disharmonious. Sending energy and peace your way.

  3. Negative and aggressive behaviour in people, apart from a negative aura ,makes them more susceptible to diseases like hypertension ,stroke and even cancer.don't know about the recipient but the aggressive person definitely suffers the effect of his own attitude.

    1. Namaste!!! Very true. We all have a spark within us. If we use the spark aptly we grow spiritually if we douse the spark with petrol ( anger , rage, frustration) then the spark becomes a fire and consumes us. Sending peace and energy your way.