Everyday we wake up from sleep and get ready to walk through another day. A day with numerous challenges. A day where we can grow through numerous experiences or further entangle ourselves by letting the past mess with our now and confuse our future.
Today we will discuss about the difference between mindfulness and a mind full of mess. We will also give some tips on how we can work with ourselves to live mindfully.
There may be many situations or people we come across in one day. Some could be pleasant and some could be downright repelling or irritating. Why do we find some people or situations irritating or repelling??? Lets talk about it without using words like negative mindset or negative aura etc. Simply put we all have our own definition, understanding or requirements that meet our parameters for peace and joy. When anything or anyone is outside these parameters we find them repelling or irritating. Yes a person who is at a higher plane spiritually would not get affected by any sort of person or situation however here we are trying to help even the common man whose aim is to get through each day peacefully. Only if one is at peace and free from the stress and frustrations will they gradually climb more steps that lead to spirituality.
Often when we throw a fit or get irritated it is not the present situation or person that has caused all this anger. However it is just a trigger that leads to release of all the pent up anger and frustrations within. We need to work on how we can eliminate the frustrations of the past not affecting the situations of the now. Over a period of time even the frustrations of the past will be released in a manner that will not affect our peace.
How do we get stress free???
How do we negate the frustrations????
How do we release our baggage's that we keep pulling along??????
Well usually we are told stuff like meditate, eliminate expectations and so on. But honestly speaking we need to make simple steps and guide people which helps them over a period of time to live holistically and makes them content.
I agree that the cause of discontent, anger, frustrations etc is our expectations. However we all need money for food, clothing, shelter etc and we work a whole month for it so it is natural to expect a salary or remuneration. It is natural to have some thoughts on how we will spend it and so on .
So lets first take the most important step and stop trying to suppress expectations. Suppressing anything only creates more craving at a subconscious level either for what is suppressed or it manifests as rigidity or a wavering mind. There was a time when I was in college and it was a ritual for my friends and myself to go for a movie every Friday - First day First Show. Today I have stopped watching movies and have not sat in front of the TV for over a year. This is not achieved by suppressing my needs or desires but by working with them and growing out of them.
Following few simple steps can help us on the path to mindfulness. Start by sleeping early. Sleep is the natural form of meditation. A person who gets in a good number of hours of sleep regularly is usually free from the shackles of stress etc. When I mention good number of hours of sleep am referring to sleeping at night and not past midnight till afternoon. Try to sleep latest by 10pm though the ideal time would be 9:30pm. Wake up early at about 4- 5am. Meditate for some time or just lie in bed start counting all your blessings and thank God or the Universe for them. Go for a walk or a jog. Do not carry music. Let the morning be your time. Listen to the music that is within you. You could continue counting your blessings while you walk or jog too. Greet people that you meet even if they are strangers or even if they don't reply.
The above steps if done regularly will show a major transformation in your general lifestyle physically, emotionally and spiritually too. Now moving to the most important part - The Day. Let me start by an example that exists in my reality everyday - Every morning one of the neighbours insists on leaving his door open. It keeps on banging a million times till they finally shut it in the afternoon. This loud banging of the door irritates quite a few people in my building. While I use each bang of the door to count a blessing. So every time the door bangs I count a blessing. What causes irritation to others brings me peace.
I have not done something extraordinary. I have just decided how to respond to a situation. We all have the power to respond to any situation the way we wish to. So lets try a simple yet pretty challenging step. Whenever we are faced by something that could get us angry, irritated, or raise our voice etc just remove yourself from the situation. Now from the outside view the situation including yourself. Most of the time when you do this you will always come to the conclusion that nothing you do out of anger or irritation will erase what has happened nor will it bring a positive change. The next thing to do is respond to it positively and proactively. You could always express that you are not happy or okay with being treated in a specific way by a person, however do so in a polite manner and not when they are twisting your nerves. Make it your habit to respond only this way. Initially it may seem difficult. However keep at it for a fortnight and it will become a part of your character. It will not only reduce the frustration and irritation levels from building within you but will also start having a positive effect on the people around you. Their behaviour towards you will change. They will also start transforming positively. Yes it may not happen immediately but as long as you are at peace there will no longer be any rush.
Mindfulness is about actually living in the now. For only when we do not let the bagage's of the past pour out in to the now are we living in the now.
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