A word that has been so badly mangled, twisted and churned by people, society, movies etc that it has lost its true meaning, its essence and its nature.
The word Love is an emotion. An emotion that is very basic and centric to our very existence. Yet today it is in a confused state which further causes confusions within us and makes a simple life very complex and mutated.
Then we have the absurd concept of love and unconditional love. Well it is the most regressive and repulsive thing created about the simple image of an emotion. Love is an emotion just like anger, rage, joy, hate, peace etc. Do we have conditional and unconditional Anger or Hate or Peace????????
Well we do not. We do not have any expectations too, we just express our anger or hate or joy or peace without having a prefixed notion of some stipulations or reciprocation. Then why is there a disparity in how we view Love which is also just an emotion?
This is the result of how modern so called developed society has redefined and shaped this simple emotion making it complex and mangled.
Love is always unconditional. The moment we connect to this wonderful emotion from our heart and not from the mind which has numerous definitions set to explain this emotion, we will understand love. Love will be the same for a family member or a person we just interact with for work etc. Yes we may feel the emotion more intensely for a few or for the one we are very closely bonded to but at the core it will be the same. The moment an emotion that is supposed to be in the heart moves to the mind it ceases to be an emotion. It is no longer an emotion but a word just like any other which we have been taught and defined. This is the part where all the expectations, stipulations and conditions waltz in creating a chaos and confusion that is beyond comprehension.
The moment expectation exists in anything that you love or in any relationship it ceases to be love. Even if it is a teeny weeny expectation of missing or the need to see or have that person around you. Then it is no longer an emotion in its pure and natural state. One does not need approval to love, we seek that approval for we have expectations and look for reciprocation.
Look at nature, go deep in to the forest on your own stay there for a few days (please use your prudence, if you have never tried this then go stay at a lodge or hotel at a nature reserve) everything in nature expresses unconditional love and that is why we feel so good and energized. That is Love, you feel it, you sense it unconditionally. You connect with your inner self, your soul.
When we connect to love at this level, it transforms the way you look at life, the way you look at your relationships and so on. For now you expect nothing. You can give love to anyone even when they may not reciprocate or may be they actually hate you. The best part is it does not matter anymore as for you now it is purely an emotion in its purest form.
I started trying to connect with this emotion in the true form years back. The results have been spellbinding. Today I connect with total strangers and they speak to me as if they know me from years. Just yesterday I was waiting for Aanil to remove his bike from the parking area of a super market and an auto rickshaw driver who I have never ever met before bobed his head out and asked me how I was doing. We started talking and we discussed the weather and so on. This is not the first time I have experienced this. It happens to me everyday since the day I connected to the core of this emotion. People don't understand why they start talking or pour out everything to me but deep down their soul senses the undiluted emotion of love and the comfort it brings with it.
So if you wish to experience love then don't think from the mind that has different definitions for the same emotion.
Search within, dive deep inside and start by loving yourself first, understanding the emotion as it is undiluted and pure. Once you have done that just let it radiate from within you and it will be felt by all around. Many may wonder why you behave in a certain manner or question your intentions or why would you do so much for people you are not bound by blood or relation but they feel that because they are trying to understand what you do from the definitions they have about the emotion and not the emotion itself.